While out for a walk with Koda a few days ago, Brandon and I were talking about our goals and making a to-do list for 2015. Our hope is that by creating a to-do list, we’re allowing ourselves the entire year to get through it rather than making one resolution and demanding that change occurs starting on the first of the year.
I really like the idea of looking forward and thinking about all you hope to accomplish in the next year, it seems so much more optimistic than looking back at the past year and dismally asking yourself what you made of it. After Brandon and I made this to-do list for ourselves as a couple, I decided to sit down and make a personal set of goals. Some of these goals overlap with our goals as a couple and of course some of our goals as a couple overlap with my personal goals. But I really believe that taking a moment to do some self reflection is essential to self-improvement.
my personal goals for 2015:
► travel more
We hope to do one or two big excursions this year and I’m SO excited for that! But in-between those trips, I aim to take more adventures to neighboring cities and across nearby state-lines. A good vacation doesn’t have to involve jet lag and scary price tags!
► find a new workout routine
I’ve always been a distance runner and pilates guru but since moving to Iowa City, I’ve had to abandon my barre3 routine (honestly my favorite group workout routine to date!) and I can’t seem to find anything new to get me out the door on a daily basis. Anyone want to open a barre3 studio in Iowa City? I promise I’ll be your first customer!
► keep a cleaner house
I’m the master of cleaning like a crazy person in the minutes before someone shows up on our doorstep! But I know this chaos could be avoided if I simply dedicate 20 minutes a day to tidying up.
► do more canning and freezing
I’m missing our farmer’s market right about now and wish I’d have preserved more local produce. Specifically, I’m daydreaming of fresh garden strawberries, carrots, tomatoes, zucchini, and corn.
► be less frustrated
I’ve been slowly reading The World According to Mister Rogers: Important Things to Remember. It’s a culmination of thoughtful quotes by Fred Rogers and has really made me reflect on how often I’m critical of myself or others and how often I overreact or let my emotions take control of my actions. My favorite excerpt so far:
“Confronting our feelings and giving them appropriate expression always takes strength, not weakness. It takes strength to acknowledge our anger, and sometimes more strength yet to curb our aggression…”
► be more friendly on a more regular basis
This goal relates to the previous goal. I need to be better at not letting my bad day influence my attitude towards others.
► do something vicarious and a little scary
It’s been a while since I’ve done anything that really scared my pants off and although I’m a bit of an adrenaline junkie and have found that skydiving will certainly scare your pants off, I think it’s refreshing simply to try something new and outside the comfort zone. I don’t know what this will look like once I complete it but I know I’m on the lookout to try something outside of my comfort zone this year. I’ll let you know what form this one ends up taking!
► reach out to friends more often
It’s so hard to stay in touch with friends as our lives take us to different cities and states. It truly takes effort from both sides of the relationship and I have to admit that despite how much I cherish my friendships, I’m sometimes quite awful at reaching out and maintaining those connections.
►read more books / watch less tv
Sometimes it’s really hard to turn the tv off and pick up a book instead! I have a couple favorite shows that I never miss a beat on, but my biggest time-waster lies in that space of time after my show ends. My goal is to become better at only turning the tv on for the shows I’ve planned to watch.
► spend more quality time with brandon
This one might sound a little mushy-gushy but I think it’s something we can always be better at. I want to be more efficient with our time together. Work when we need to work, but turn the computer off when we’re done and go out for a hike or make dinner together. This quality time spent together doesn’t have to be sappy or romantic or dramatically planned out. Sometimes the best memories we have with one-another can be the simplest of moments like playing cards on the living room floor or taking the dog out for a walk.
Tell me, what’s one of your goals for 2015??